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Saturday Morning Quote: Elizabeth Stone

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

-Elizabeth Stone

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Saturday Morning Quote: Birth as a Metaphor

John 16:19-22

“Jesus could see  that they wanted to ask him about these things,so he said to them, “Are you askingeach other about this – that I said, ‘In a little while youwill not see me; again after a little while, you will see me’?  I tell you the solemn truth,  you will weep  and wail, but the world will rejoice; you will be sad,but your sadness will turn into  joy. When a woman gives birth, she has distress because her time  has come, but when her child is born, she no longer remembers the suffering because of her joy that a human being  has been born into the world.  So also you have sorrownow, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy away from you.

(Taken from the NET Bible at Bible.org.)

Mother And Child

Mother and Child by Adolphe William Bouguereau

Saturday Morning Excerpt: The Hands of a Mother

“A few weeks ago, my baby gave me a flower. Never mind that he needed Daddy’s help to pick it, or that is was missing a few petals, or that he wasn’t entirely sure he wanted to let it go. It was- and is- the most gorgeous flower ever given or received. Silver and gold wouldn’t buy it from me.

“Later, I pressed it into his baby book. I watched myself, a woman at her kitchen table flattening a wilted daffodil onto a page, and I was amazed. When in the past nine months of midnight nursings and teething and drooly kisses did I become a mother? For so long I saw my hands as the hands of a working woman on her own, hands making a living. Now I saw hands that have changed hundreds of diapers, washed and folded a thousand tiny socks and shirts, held a tiny, searching mouth to my breast late at night, held my baby dancing in the kitchen, and eased him down into sleep.

“Seeing those hands, I understood something that has been at the edge of my consciousness since I first took my son in my arms and inhaled his newborn smell. These aren’t just my hands anymore; they belong to a lineage of mothers a planet wide and a millennia old. I was a woman on an April evening in a kitchen in my corner of the world, catching time between the pages of a baby book, and at the same time, I was my mother, her mother, a mother, somewhere on another continent carefully tucking a flower into the pocket of her shirt, a flower you couldn’t buy from her with silver or gold. We don’t know each other, but all over the world and all through time, we’re gathering up wilted flowers and misspelled love notes, and every single one of us knows the fierce, singular ache that’s love and pride and sadness all mixed into one.

“I thought I’d become a mother the day my baby was born. It isn’t so. Mothers join the ranks slowly, gradually, one caress, one diaper, one feeding at a time. And then one day we look down, and there they are: the hands of a mother, gently, and with enormous strength doing the most important work on earth.”

-Laura, remembering 2008.

-From The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, 8th Ed., La Leche League International. Diane Wiessinger, Diana West, and Teresa Pitman.

Saturday Morning Quote: Medicated Labor is Not Painless.

“The myth is that the medicated labor is painless. But it is the medicated mother who later talks most about pain (and it is she who is often seen during labor suffering and out of control). She may have thought drugs would see her through labor, so she didn’t take the opportunity to get her mind and body ready.

In contrast, the trained, natural-childbirth mother talks primarily of hard work- because she knows what to do in labor.”

-Natural Chilbirth The Bradley Way, Susan McCutcheon, p. 5.

Disclaimer:  My regular readers will know that I am not against a judiciously placed epidural or other pain medication when it is truly needed. I just found the concept that medicated labor is not painless a very intriguing one.

Proper preparation for what is to come, though it’s not necessarily a guarantee of an easy labor, can truly help the mother to navigate what she is experiencing. Even if plans end up changing completely or she decides she needs pain medication after all, she at least has the satisfaction of knowing that she was working with her body and the comfort of being prepared for the changes to come. Conversely, it seems that simply assuming that the pain meds will get you through labor easily is sure to land you for a real shock. Just as preparation is not a guarantee of a fast and easy labor, pain medication cannot be relied upon solely for the woman’s comfort.

What is your take on this quote? Has anyone experienced both a medicated and an unmedicated birth? And, if so, which one did you feel was more difficult?