Posts Tagged ‘Babywearing’

Adventures in Babywearing: Wanting a Woven

I’m not an extremely avid babywearer, but I sure do think my Sleepy Wrap comes in handy when I need to be holding my baby and using my hands. My little guy is getting quite heavy, so I’ve been wanting to wear him on my back, rather than my chest. However, I’ve been told that it really isn’t safe to use a stretchy wrap for back carries. The best, they say, is to purchase a nice woven wrap.

I like to do my research before deciding on a brand, so I looked at a variety. Many babywearers agree that the Didymos wrap is the best woven. Who can blame them? It’s made of organic hand-picked cotton (or sometimes silk or linen blends), woven on a Jacquard loom, and is known for it’s durability and comfort. But all of this wonderful stuff can run you anywhere between $100 and $180, depending on sizing and patterns. Look for a limited edition weave, and the price goes up from there.

There are other brands too, all with names I cannot spell or pronounce, and many of them seem reputable and of high quality too. You can find a lot of them at Piece of Cloth. Still, I’m having a hard time finding one under $80 or so. I feel like I just can’t justify the cost.

I turn to the next viable option: DIY! I’m semi-crafty, and I know how to use a sewing mahine. However, it seems like buying nice woven fabric won’t be much cheaper than buying a wrap! I’ve read that you can use cotton gauze to make a wrap, but I’m not sure if thats supportive enough for a back carry or not.

Thankfully, my mom is even craftier and thriftier than I am, and she found a 5 yd piece of blue woven cotton fabric for $5 at a thrift store. Awesome! It’s not the same type of woven as those glorious name brand wraps, but I think it will do. Here it is:

 I tested it today, uncut and unhemmed, and got my baby in a secured high back carry. It was a little sloppy since it was my first try, so I kept a hand on him for safety.

The only problem with this fabric is that it seems a bit stiff and tricky to work with. It doesn’t quite have that nice flow that the real wraps have. But I think it will be secure and will get the job done if I can’t find a better cost-efficient option. Before I make the first cut, I’m reviewing all my current possibilities for my own woven:

  1. My blue woven fabric my mom bought to make my own.
  2. A homemade cotton gauze wrap, since it’s much less expensive to buy.
  3. A used name-brand wrap- either bought or found at a swap board.

Any experienced babywearers out there who know what’s best? I really wouldn’t want to spend more than, say, $30, because I’m cheap. But safety comes first. If I can’t meet safety requirements within that cost, I guess we’ll have to forego the woven wrap and I’ll just toughen up my back muscles to continue carrying my boy in the front. 🙂


Middle-of-the-Line Mommy

I saw a link the other day on the side of a website for a “Natural Parenting” group.  It said something to the effect of, “If you are a co-sleeping, non-circumcising, breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth-diapering, non-vaccinating, attatchment parent, join us!” I am not against or for this style of parenting entirely (and I probably lean more towards this than the other extreme), but here’s my question: do all of these things always have to go together?

I don’t co-sleep, mostly because I’m a very heavy sleeper and I’m afraid I would roll onto my baby or smother him. Plus, I like having my own space with my husband. However, we do let our son into the bed with us in the early mornings when we’re half-awake for a nice big family snuggle. 

We didn’t circumcise our son, mostly because after doing the research on the topic, we decided there wasn’t any real reason to do it. However, we are not anti-circumcision, and I believe it’s a personal choice for you and your family.

I do breastfeed exclusively (my son is 3 months old) because it is the best food health-wise for my baby and I also treasure the closeness we share as he eats. Breast milk is something only I can give him, so that helps us to create our own special bond. I will breastfeed in a public place, but with a nursing cape (even though I know it probably shouldn’t offend people, it still does, and I don’t want to be pushy about it). Also, I have several friends who formula fed their babies, and I have never made them feel guilty for their choice, nor will I ever do so.

I wear my baby in my Sleepy Wrap almost every day, but not all of the time. I use it to get chores done or to go shopping or walking with him. I love being close and providing him a snuggly place close to my heart. However, I also give him plenty of time to play on a mat or in a swing nearby while I work. I still talk to him and love on him while doing so- it’s just that I think it’s important for him to feel comfortable playing on his own too.

I do cloth diaper and enjoy it very much, but we use disposable for traveling. Again, I think this is a family by family choice.

We are vaccinating our son, but on an alternative schedule to avoid some of the possible risks of receiving too many vaccines at once. We also are delaying some of the less important vaccinations until later.

We haven’t let our child cry it out, but we don’t pick him up at every little fuss either. We’re trying to use our best judgment each day regarding this issue.

In short, I think of myself as a “middle-of-the-line” mommy when it comes to these matters. I don’t think it has to be all or nothing, and every mommy should consider each individual aspect of parenting carefully. You may or may not agree with me on every issue above, but that’s okay. I don’t think there is a one-style-fits-all when it comes to parenting. I believe I am trying to make the best decisions I can for my baby as I raise him, but I also know that what works for my baby may not work for every baby!

Motherhood is a journey, not a strict adherence to one particular parenting method. I’m a pretty new mom, so who knows- I might end up changing some of these things as I learn and grow! I hope to be wise and to give my baby lots of love, no matter what.